This photo of Jack Chapman (red top) and me (green top) was taken at Bearaoke at The Laird Hotel on June 14 2012. It was posted to the VicBears Facebook page the following day:
The photo has since been re-used in a November 3 2108 noodlesandbeefleftovers tumblr post (contains adult content):
It’s unclear what the purpose of the photo appearing in the tumblr post is but it may be connected to the sentence:
Jack had been subservient before getting the muscles and way before silicone was in the picture.
Under the VicBears post on Facebook I explained what Jack was doing to me:
I was buying raffle tickets that were supporting the Anti Violence Project. I elected for the “$5 for as many as can fit the length of my inside-leg measurement” option and Jack was measuring me up.
Jack was kneeling in front of me so he could put a tape measure around my leg. It was a beautiful moment of hilarity between Jack and me, but it was nothing more than that.
I would be very disappointed if this photo of us was being used to prove some point about Jack different to what actually happened.
VicBears would like to invite you to celebrate the life of Jack Chapman…
Celebrating the life of Jack Chapman
Hosted by VicBears Inc.
Saturday, 10 November 2018 from 12:00-17:00
149 Gipps Street, Abbotsford, Abbotsford, Victoria, Australia 3067
VicBears would like to invite you to celebrate the life of Jack Chapman, one of our nearest and dearest. He touched so many lives not only here in Melbourne but around the world. To know him, was to feel loved.
At his strictest orders, this is not to be a sad or solemn occasion, but one to celebrate the ways he lived his life – limitless enthusiasm, boundless hilarity and unconquerable courage.
The ever amazing boys at The Laird have graciously given us the venue for a few hours and allowed us to extend the invite to ALL of Jacks family and friends. Anyone that knew him or knew someone touched by him is most welcome to attend and make a contribution (not just the men)!
VicBears will also be unveiling a few special surprises on the day to ensure this beloved ranga is never forgotten and continues to make a lasting positive impact on our community for years to come.
Please ensure you RSVP on this Facebook event as light snacks will be provided and drinks will be available for purchase from the bar.
Even if you can’t be there on the day YOU CAN STILL CONTRIBUTE! No matter where you are in the world…
Prior to the day we are calling for any and all farewell messages, photos, stories or memories of your best moments with Jack. These will be displayed around the venue on the day and made available to his family (so keep them mostly family friendly please) so that they can see how much he was loved and how many lives he touched.
Send your contributions to email@example.com as soon as possible to make sure they’re included.
MEMORIAL FOR JACK CHAPMAN
February 13, 1990-October 15, 2018
The family of Jack Chapman cordially invites you to join them in celebrating the extraordinary life of their beloved son and brother.
The family requests you bring your thoughts, prayers and fondest memories of Jack. Reception to follow. Bring a plate.
I met Jack in 2008 when he was a scruffy-haired teenager. I saw him around the traps for the next few years, then he went overseas, and now he’s dead, aged 28. Farewell Jack.
This week I learnt of the death of Jack Chapman, a young man I first met around 2008.
Jack always made me feel happy. He was someone I saw from time to time at the Laird Hotel, and around bear and gay events.
I wasn’t especially close as a friend, but Jack was there for a chat on the odd occasion, sometimes for a project of his, or for his fundraising for the Victorian AIDS Council.
In this audio clip (extracted from episode 21 of the Cubby House podcast, recorded on September 28 2009) Jack tops and tails the reading Sandra Schneiderman and I performed of Wayne Hoffman’s “A place at the table”:
After some years we kinda lost touch, more because I wasn’t hanging around the Laird as much, and because he wasn’t around either. One day I found out he was actually living overseas, and that he was in a relationship with a guy there. We saw each other at the Laird somewhere around this time (it’s blurry, I don’t recall if he came back or it was before he went away), and that was the last time I saw Jack.
On Wednesday this week (October 17) I was driving back from Bairnsdale to Mallacoota, parked in Lakes Entrance for a break, and Gregory (my husband) forwarded me a message he’d seen on Facebook:
The message was to a photo on a mutual friend’s page. The caption read:
I am saddened and shocked of the news of the passing of jack/tank. R.I.P big fella
I didn’t know Jack was now using the name Tank (or that he had changed his last name).
Jack was one of the sweetest guys that had come into my life, and now he’s gone. He did a lot for the community here in Melbourne. I’ll miss him for sure.
Here’s a gallery of a few pics I took of him, or were taken of us, between 2008 and 2012.
POSTSCRIPT (October 20)
Three redacted copies of Jack’s death certificate have surfaced (
Liquid silicone, which is often used for breast augmentation and other cosmetic procedures, can cause respiratory failure if not injected properly by a licensed physician. A study of individuals who underwent illegal silicone injections revealed a high fatality rate from pulmonary silicone embolism, or obstruction of the lungs. The study was presented at the annual meeting of the Radiological Society of North America.
There clearly needs to be greater education around the dangers of silicone injections for cosmetic enhancement, particular if death is a likely outcome from incorrect administration.
ACON’s Pride in Diversity Program is a disgrace due to a serious conflict its foundation member IBM has.
ACON says of its Pride Inclusion Programs:
Pride Inclusion Programs are social inclusion initiatives of ACON. ACON was established in 1985 as the AIDS Council of NSW and is now Australia’s largest HIV prevention, HIV support and LGBTI health organisation. An important part of ACON’s mission is to help make the places where our community members live, work, study and play more inclusive of LGBTI people, improving the mental health and wellbeing of our community through the reduction of stigma, discrimination and social exclusion.
Pride in Diversity is one of these programs:
Pride in Diversity is the national not-for-profit employer support program for LGBTI workplace inclusion specialising in HR, organisational change and workplace diversity. Pride in Diversity publishes the Australian Workplace Equality Index (AWEI), Australia’s national benchmarking instrument for LGBTI workplace inclusion from which Top Employers for LGBTI people is determined.
Amongst the Pride in Diversity Foundation Members is IBM:
Pride in Diversity, together with ACON, proudly acknowledges the dedication and support from our foundational members who were the early leaders in Australia for recognising and pursuing LGBTI workplace inclusion.
– Australian Federal Police (AFP)
– Department of Defence
– Goldman Sachs
– Lend Lease
Included in the 2017 Principle Partners (Sponsorship) is IBM:
2017 Principal Partners (Sponsorship)
Principal Partners generously support Pride in Diversity over and above membership through sponsorship or substantial support of signature events and/or publications. We sincerely acknowledge and thank our Principal Partners for 2017. Pride in Diversity Principal Partners (via membership) are recognised on the List of Members page.
– Deutsche Bank
– Goldman Sachs
– Macquarie Group
– Out Leadership
– The Star Entertainment Group
– The University of Queensland
In 2017 IBM declared their “support of the LGBT community” by introducing a rainbow logo:
Mark Allaby is IBM’s Financial Market Expert:
As of May 31 2018 the
In March 2017 The Australian
To help understand the ideology of the Lachlan Macquarie Institute, it is helpful to know that it is an initiative of the Australian Christian Lobby. This is evidenced in the ACL’s July 5 2018 newsletter:
It is also evidenced in the WHOIS record for lmi.org.au, which shows the domain name is currently (and was
Domain Name: LMI.ORG.AU
Registry Domain ID: D407400000000366462-AU
Registrar WHOIS Server:
Registrar Name: TPP Wholesale Pty Ltd
Registrar Abuse Contact Email:
Registrar Abuse Contact Phone:
Registrant Contact ID: C2008705-AU
Registrant Contact Name: John Austin
Registrant Contact Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Tech Contact ID: C804789-AU
Tech Contact Name: Digerati Solutions
Tech Contact Email: email@example.com
Name Server: NS1.CWS-SERVERS.COM
Name Server: NS2.CWS-SERVERS.COM
Name Server: NS3.CWS-SERVERS.COM
Registrant: AUSTRALIAN CHRISTIAN LOBBY
Eligibility Type: Non-profit Organisation
Eligibility ID: ABN 40075120517
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Alongside LMI’s Mark Allaby is Lyle Shelton, also a Director on the board:
Lyle Shelton is the immediate past Managing Director of the Australian Christian Lobby. He
Martyn Iles, the current ACL Managing Director, also happens to be on the LMI board as Secretary:
Adding to the litany of anti-LGBTIQ equality personalities on the LMI board is Lyle Shelton’s disgraced ACL predecessor, Jim Wallace:
The ACL and Lyle Shelton have a strong record of opposing equal rights for LGBTIQ people and eroding their dignity. This has been an obsession of Lyle Shelton and the ACL going by an analysis of Lyle’s Twitter output while he was employed by the ACL.
The Lachlan Macquarie Institute board is peppered with people whom many would consider to be the arch enemies of the LGBTIQ community.
Mark Allaby’s presence as a Director of the Lachlan Macquarie Institute, an organisation that in no way distances itself from the hateful and intolerant values of the Australian Christian Lobby, makes it clear that he shares the values of the board members he sits amongst, and of the organisation that enables his board.
LMI claim they “prepare Christian men and women for leadership and public service”:
As a centre for leadership and public service, we offer a range of short and long programmes for people of varying ages and professions. Each programme targets specific areas of public engagement, including public service, policy, politics, law, education, not-for-profit, and church. Programmes combine Scripture, social analysis, Christian apologetics, lawmaking, political science, and philosophy.
It is beyond belief that as an employee of IBM, a foundation member of ACON’s Pride in Diversity program, Mark Allaby shares an iota of his employer’s values when it comes to LGBTIQ inclusion and diversity.
It is beyond belief that Mark Allaby could be considered a role model in providing respect and dignity for his transgender and gender diverse co-workers or clients.
It is beyond belief that Mark Allaby could, with any shred of sincerity, afford respect for his co-workers or clients in same-sex marriages, considering the gargantuan campaign the ACL promoted and funded to oppose the passage of marriage equality.
It is beyond belief that IBM, by employing a person who is a Director of an organisation that prepares people to erode the legal equality of LGBTIQ Australians, could be sincere in its responsibility as a foundation member of ACON’s Pride in Diversity Program.
It is beyond belief that ACON are genuinely committed to “improving the mental health and wellbeing of our community” by keeping IBM as a member of their Pride in Diversity Program while Mark Allaby is simultaneously an employee of IBM and associated with the prominent anti-LGBTIQ-equality Lachlan Macquarie Institute.
ACON needs to sort this mess out, because until they do, their programme will remain a disgrace.
I discuss my activism and the recent smear campaign by The Australian on JOY 94.9 Saturday Magazine.
On Saturday April 8 2017 I was interviewed by David “Macca” McCarthy on JOY 94.9’s Saturday Magazine regarding my activism and the recent smear campaign by The Australian and other News Corp media outlets.
#ineedsafeschools because I’ve watch my friends be beaten up while I stood frozen scared of what could happen if I stepped in.
I need safe schools because I’ve been called some of the most horrendous things not only by my peers but a few of my teachers as well.
I need safe schools because my best friend has watched me cry into her shoulder for hours.
I need safe schools because I wasn’t given enough time to be completely comfortable with who I am before being forced to tell my parents.
I need safe schools because I ad so much self hate for myself that I wasn’t looking after myself.
I need safe schools because the only things around sexuality that is taught at my school is two pages in a text book that say GAY STRAIGHT AND TRANS.
I need safe schools because when I say that I am pansexual everyone has no idea what I’m talking about and guess that I’m in love with pots and pans
I need safe schools because I have a friend who was turned away from a school because of ‘special needs’. He’s trans.
I need safe schools because the two week long sex program in year nine has the assumption that everyone in the room is straight.
I need safe schools because for two whole years I felt broken.
I need safe schools because I’ve been trying to stay afloat while I have rocks tied to my ankles.
I need safe schools because my parents watch this happen and they feel helpless when nothing changes.
I need safe schools because I am not
Someone’s punching bag.
Something that can be tossed aside.
Something you can use like puppet.
I need safe schools because I am.
I am great.
And I am strong.
And my friends and family deserve that.
I deserve that.
Andrew Laming, MP for Bowman cares about youth mental health but if he votes against marriage equality he will exacerbate that problem.
From: Michael Barnett
Date: 8 August 2015 at 13:00
Subject: An urgent message about the mental health of youth in Bowman
To: Andrew Laming – MP for Bowman <firstname.lastname@example.org>
Dear Mr Laming
I’m writing to you regarding the issue of mental health in young people in your electorate of Bowman.
In your first speech to Parliament in November 2004 you spoke of wanting to help young Australians make a difference about the issues important to them:
Lastly, I want to engage young Australians. Our young Australians out there still do not have the faith in this parliament that I would love to see. How do I convince those young Australians that this political process is one in which they can have faith? How can I convince them that the issues that they want to talk about are ones where we can really make a difference?
You also spoke about knowing your limitations, about drawing from but not being a slave to your lived experience, and realising that celebrating diversity is something you value more than enforcing your ideology on others:
I am grounded by the humility of my limited knowledge. I hope I am guided, but never coloured, by my life experiences. I tell my story not to hammer some ideological stake in the ground but to celebrate the diversity of experiences that are here. Different backgrounds add to the breadth of this parliament…
I refer you to a statement on mental health on your web site claiming:
75% of all mental illness presents in people aged under 25, that’s why I’m so pleased to announce Capalaba is one of 15 locations across Australia that will get a new Headspace centre.
A further such statement on your web site claims:
Mental health is a topic I take very seriously, and for those interested we’ve just announced a new Headspace facility for Capalaba where youth can get early intervention and treatment for drug, alcohol and mental health issues. This kind of facility is the key to prevention and supporting our young people long before they’re rolling into emergency. It’s a passionate topic for many, and the majority of us have been touched by mental health in some way. Let’s work together to come up solutions and constructive feedback so we can support our young people.
It is evident that you not only care about giving young people opportunities, but that you care deeply about their mental health and well-being. I am confident most people would align with you on these concerns.
What strikes me as a little odd is that whilst you are passionate about these issues, you appear to be lacking the necessary degree of commitment to stand by them.
There is ample evidence that young people who are marginalised and discriminated against due to their sexual orientation or gender identity have poorer mental health outcomes than their peers:
Same-sex attracted Australians are more likely to experience below-average health outcomes including higher levels of depression, due to this prejudice and discrimination. The statistics are particularly alarming for younger and newly-identifying LGBTI people who have consistently higher rates of drug and alcohol abuse, homelessness, early school leaving, conflict with peers and parents and suicide ideation, all directly related to the discrimination and prejudice they experience.[v]
Young people who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or intersex who are denied hope, opportunity and the rewards of society are those who are most likely to be in need of the mental health services you have campaigned so passionately for.
You voted strongly against marriage equality in 2010 and 2012, and declared in 2011 that you are personally “opposed to SSM [same-sex marriage]” but “support legally-equivalent civil unions as an alternative“.
The masthead on your web site states:
You are registered as a medical practitioner Mr Laming and have worked as a GP. You will no doubt be aware of how risk factors play out in the well-being of people’s lives. I ask you to think hard about the implications of choosing to vote against marriage equality, knowing that maintaining the status quo is linked to poorer health outcomes. I also ask you to consider that a vote against marriage equality will obliterate the hopes, opportunities and rewards for the same young people whose welfare you so passionately and genuinely care about.
Polling by Crosby-Textor, the go-to pollsters for the Liberal Party (the party that you are a member of) showed that in 2014 there was very strong support nationally for people aged 18-34 (female: 90%; male 81%). In 2010 the News Ltd Same-Sex Marriage poll indicated 43% support in Bowman, 40% opposed and 17% indifferent. That means 60% of Bowman are not opposed to marriage equality.
In 2004 you claimed that you wanted to empower young Australians to actively engage in politics and to speak out about the issues that are important to them. In 2015 you are asking your electorate to tell you about marriage equality yet you are bypassing the credible polling that exists. The young people of Australia and in Bowman want marriage equality very much.
You talk of hope, reward and opportunity. You talk of wanting to reduce the plight of mental health issues in young people in Bowman. You talk of wanting to give young Australians faith in their parliament. You talk about wanting to see young people achieve what is important to them. You talk of knowing your limitations and not hammering your ideology. You talk of celebrating diversity. Yet despite all this talk you are prepared to turn your back on it if the unscientific and clumsy polling that you are engaging in suggest you should not support marriage equality.
What exactly are your priorities Mr Laming? Are they centred around the welfare of your electorate, or are they centred around your further reelection to office? Because it strikes me that the people of Bowman are not getting the best representation you could give them if you continue to turn your back on what all the evidence is showing.
I leave you with the quote that you borrowed from Robert F Kennedy in your first speech and your closing paragraph. Perhaps now would be a prudent time to contemplate them.
“It is from numberless diverse acts of courage and belief that human history is shaped. Each time a person stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope. That ripple builds others. Those ripples – crossing each other from a million different centers of energy – build a current that can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and injustice.”
– Senator Robert F. Kennedy
While there are no mighty walls to sweep down in Bowman, there are plenty of opportunities for ripples of hope—opportunities to enrich a beloved community, to preserve our Redland character and to provide choice and opportunity for those whose faith has put me here.
In the best interests of the young people of Bowman, their families, friends and communities, I urge you to vote for marriage equality.
Serial homophobe and President of Caulfield Synagogue Robert Weil is on a rampant hate speech spree against gays.
Jewish community “comic“, outgoing president of Caulfield Hebrew Congregation and serial homophobe Robert Weil today took yet another swipe at same-sex attracted and gender diverse members of the Jewish community by accusing them of unsubstantiated “bullying tactics” in a comment posted on J-Wire article Gay and Lesbian support group apply for JCCV affiliation:
Increasingly people who are intolerant of homosexuality are finding fewer platforms to spruik their outdated attitudes. The tragic part of what his intolerance does is promote higher self-esteem and anxiety issues in same-sex attracted and gender diverse youth, feeding into harmful behaviours such as drug and alcohol abuse, self harm and suicide.
The community leadership (eg JCCV, Caulfield Shule, ADC) needs to speak out against hate speech such as this. They won’t accept hate speech against Jews, yet it seems hate speech by prominent Jews against gays is not noteworthy.
The standard the community walks past is the standard the community accepts.