I will. I do.

Tonight Gregory and I went to dinner at Bridges Bali, a delightful restaurant that we had lunch at last Friday.  We returned because the service, food, atmosphere and location were impeccable.  Quite the combination if you get it all right.  Having had the entrée of rare roast lamb and the main of Thai-inspired grilled Barramundi, we settled for espressos and Cointreau chocolate mousse.  Yes, mousse.

And it was during the mousse, yes – mousse, that the conversation turned to one we’d had a number of times in the past, about marriage and our thoughts on it.  Yet, this time, there was a different tone to the conversation.  Gregory became a little more serious and actually asked me if I’d marry him, not if I’d ever marry him, but if I’d actually marry him.  The sort of question that demanded a yes answer, here and now.

Oh, I thought, this is the real thing, not a humorous conversation, but an actual marriage proposal.  I think I started to cry and was trying to maintain my composure between polite interruptions from the impeccably appointed wait-staff who clearly weren’t trained in the art of detecting a marriage proposal between two middle-aged men.  Wiping away the odd tear or two I said yes and continued trying to untangle the mass of emotions that had beset me, amidst what could only be described as one of the most idyllic moments of my life.

A quick phone-call from me back to Australia to let the folks know and a quick text message or two from Gregory back to his kids and sister and the deal was sealed.  I have to say, finding the courage to make that phone call, and finding the actual words to say were amazingly more fraught than I would ever have expected.  But having announced our engagement felt good, and it felt right.  I couldn’t think of a better man to be engaged to get married to.

Of course, the question has been asked, in which country will you guys get married.  Not a question most engaged couples get asked I suspect, because the expectation is they would celebrate their nuptials at home, wherever that was for them.  Yet for us two Australians, getting married at home is not so straightforward, because there is no legal option for us to do this in Australia currently.  We may be able to get married in a foreign consulate in Australia, but that wouldn’t be on Australian soil, and there wouldn’t be the stunningly beautiful Australian Coat of Arms on that marriage certificate.

It was a very simple decision for us.  We are going to get married to each other in Australia, under Australian law, on Australian soil.  It may be in the next three years, or it may be longer, but it will happen in both our lifetimes and most likely sooner than later.

We haven’t exchanged rings.  We probably won’t.  Rings are not our style.  We did get an ‘engagement ring’ from Facebook though, when we made that irrevocable and gay announcement to our social networks:

Engaged

So, thank you Gregory, you’ve changed my life, tonight, and every day since we met on that Tuesday in November 2008.  I love you.

P.S.  I can’t believe my enjoyment of the perfect chocolate mousse was interrupted by a marriage proposal.  Honestly.  Timing!

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8 Responses to I will. I do.

  1. there will be other espressos and Cointreau chocolate mousse. Yes, there will be. There will only be one moment where you and Gregory were engaged in a Bali paradise.

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  2. Charlie Helyar says:

    Omg congratulations to you both so very exciting. Best wishes to you both 🙂 you are bith awesome friends. We must catch up upon your return Xxoo

    Sent from my iPhone

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  3. witchypoobeck says:

    Congratulations

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  4. I love you too. Mousse not included.

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  5. Yes, I do says:

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  6. Congratulations Mikey & Greg. Such wonderful news.
    Laurent & I wish you a long happy life together – that you’re wedding will be able to take place sooner than later and that you will be content in all you do. Huge hugs from us both

    Don’t forget, that if you ever feel like a holiday in the Blue Mountains, you guys will always be welcome here.

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  7. Congratulations!! What a lovely thing to happen. Wishing you all the love in the Universes

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  8. palmboy says:

    Calling all Aussies – click here to send a quick and easy message to your federal MP, asking them to support marriage equality http://www.australianmarriageequality.org/whereyourmpstands/

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